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Resources

This page has resources to help you prepare for your dependent senior’s end of life.

Defining Community of Care has articles to assist in what is needed to properly care for your loved one.

Preparing for Death will support you in planning and coordinating the end of life process.

The Blog and Case Study sections have information that can help you understand what is happening.

The FAQ will fill in the rest.  If you have questions that are not answered here, please Contact us with your question, and we will get you an answer.

Community of Care

A community of care is a group of people who take part in caring for a dependent senior.  It is generally the responsibility of 1-2 persons to coordinate across several parties to ensure the dependent senior’s care needs are met.

It includes family and friends who:

  • Get groceries
  • Help pay bills
  • Oversee medicine and medical procedures
  • Paid resources such as personal support workers (PSW)

Care Giver Burnout

Caregiver burnout is a state of physical, emotional, and mental exhaustion that can occur as a result of providing ongoing care to a family member

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Preparing for Death

Preparing a death plan is similar to planning your retirement.

It is a good idea to meet with a death doula who can lead you through the death process, just like it is a good idea to consult a financial planner when planning for retirement. Click here to schedule an appointment.

Blog

Nutritional Needs

Make sure your dependent senior eats well.  Oftentimes it is difficult to get all the nutritional requirements necessary.  Check with their doctor to see if

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The Aging Brain

Brain health is essential for the mind-body connection and for a thriving life experience regardless of age.  Our brain health determines how well we can

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Sleep and Aging

Regardless of age, sleep is key for memory and cognition.  It is also a necessary component for physical health and resilience.   Older people who

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Case Studies

Meet Stella

Stella Ross lived a fabulous life.  She was born in 1920 and died at 102.  As a child there was no running water in the

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General FAQ

Hospice care is a type of health care that focuses on the palliation of a terminally ill patient’s pain and symptoms.

As well as attending to their emotional and spiritual needs at the end of life.

Hospice care prioritizes comfort and quality of life by reducing pain and suffering.

Home care is health care or supportive care provided by a professional caregiver in the individual home where the patient or client is living.

As opposed to, care provided in group accommodations like clinics or nursing homes.

Home care is also known as domiciliary care, social care or in-home care.

End-of-life doulas empower, educate and encourage people and their families to be involved in making decisions.

The word “doula” is Greek for servant or helper.

Like how a birth doula supports women during the labour process, a death doula supports a person during the dying process.

One who receives care is an individual with a medical condition or who requires support with activities of daily living and is in a relationship with a caregiver.

Such as a doctor, nurse, friend, or family member, who provides treatment, assistance, or comfort.

Palliative care is an interdisciplinary medical caregiving approach aimed at optimizing the quality of life and mitigating suffering among people with serious, complex, and often terminal illnesses.

This term is often used interchangeably with hospice, however, one can be palliative for years before the dying process begins.

A Power of Attorney or (PoA)  letter of attorney (also called Mandate in Quebec, Canada) is a written authorization to represent or act on another’s behalf in private affairs, business, or some other legal matter.

Late-stage care occurs at the end of life, which is the point when the medical focus switches to comfort in the time that is left. 

This stage can last weeks or take years.  It all depends on the person whose life is ending.  

Late-stage care is almost always for a dependent senior.

It is different for everybody. Some are independent and lucid until they pass away. More commonly, physical limitations are mixed with some form of dementia. How can one tell?  Some seniors remain mentally alert but become physically dependent. For others, it is the other way around. Physically they are fine, but they are now intellectually and emotionally dependent. This presents its own challenges for both the senior and their main care provider. Sometimes it is very difficult to spot when a loved one is beginning to lose their lucidity. Speaking with the family doctor or having a case worker come and evaluate the person and interview close friends and relatives are the best ways to keep somebody’s independence. Generally, the first signs that dementia is setting are:
  • Problems remembering things just learned.
  • Memory loss that disrupts work or home life.
  • Problems with planning and problem-solving.
  • Problems with completing work or home tasks.
  • Confusion of times and locations.
  • Certain vision problems that can include trouble judging distance, colour, and contrast, as well as trouble with reading and driving.
  • Having difficulty retracing steps when something is lost.
  • Showing poor judgment at work or during personal time.
  • Avoiding work projects and social activities.
  • Mood problems that might include depression, anxiety, confusion, or paranoia.
  • Changes in personality.
It can take years from the first signs of memory loss to complete personality change.  It can also happen suddenly.  There is no specific point in time when the transition occurs. It is not uncommon at the end of life (aka late-stage care) when interests fade as does energy.  It is a good idea to discuss this transition in your death plan.

The best way to engage with a dying person is to ask them what they would like to do. 

  • If they are not able to talk, perhaps read them a book. 
  • If books are too long for them to follow, short stories are also a good way to. 
  • Other things could be news, bible verses, or other spiritual literature, or poems.  
  • Touch is important.  Maybe hold their hand, brush their hair if it is not too painful. 
  • Making them their favourite food, drink or dessert is also a good way to engage.  


This is a good time to say goodbye and make sure that all that needs to be said is said. 

It is difficult to talk about death, but this is the time to do it.